Well an Author that I know and former Lieutenant Coronel Tom Kratman has the following to say about Women in the Military.
http://www.baen.com/amazonsrightbreast.asp
Now as someone who has worked physical labor I will readily admit that there are jobs where a woman has to be extraordinary in order to keep up with the guys. There have also been times when I really wish my co-workers didn't think with their dicks.
What I am getting at is that if a woman is good enough to do the job and do it right then let her.
The big issue I see is that too many people let their political ideology color their views on the subject.